Whitman Performs

A couple weeks ago we were informed by Whitman's teachers that he would take part in a school performance, towards the end of the month.  Whitman didn't know any other details, nor was he sure what he would actually be doing. 

Tuesday morning I, Erin, attended a PTA type get together at Whitman's school.  There was an announcement that some of the children would be performing the next day, Wednesday.  Afterwards I verified with a teacher whether those performing included Whitman.  She informed me Whitman would perform next month, December.  Later that day, I received a phone call from one of Whitman's teachers informing me there was a practice going on and Whitman was to join.  So after nursing Evangeline, Whitman and I took off on the motorcycle to find out more. 

Whitman with his instrument at practice

practicing positions

practicing their instruments

It is often difficult to know how much of our lack of understanding is due to a language barrier or just culture differences in the way communication happens.  What I understood after practice on Tuesday was that Whitman was called in as a replacement or substitute for someone else. I gathered further information about the event from talking to other parents and from the sign hanging on the wall at the event location. 

The event was to show case children from a handful of kindergartens from across the city.  Whitman was to be at school by 7am and then be taken to the performance location at the Mayor's office.  We decided I would accompany him as there wasn't any information as to how he would be taken with the other students to the Mayor's office.  I helped Whitman get dressed in a traditional outfit, then at 8am we left on our motorcycle. 

Whitman was pictured on the large banners at the event.

Whitman dressed and ready. 

In his school yard.

Many pictures were taken and the kids waited and waited.

Schoolmates

Speeches were given as the children sat.

Whitman playing music at the end of the event.

The event finally got started a little after 9am, at which point I had to leave to nurse Evangeline.  I would have just brought her along but we have decided she is too small to ride the motorcycle as she doesn't have a helmet yet.  On my way back to the event, I picked Caedmon up from school.  When we arrived the performances had concluded and the closing speeches were being made.  Thankfully we did get to see Whitman play his instrument at the very end while the Mayor walked around greeting children from the various schools. 

Comforts, Conviniences, and Contentment

As westerners, we are automatically considered to be wealthy.  This plays out in various ways.  A friend told us she could never be a rich person in the States because she didn’t like pizza.  She had concluded that pizza was a food of rich people since westerners eat it and westerners are rich.  Other people think life must be easy and carefree for all Americans because of the abundance of money in the States.  It is difficult to communicate the reality of life in the States with just words but, in comparison, we are quite materially wealthy. 

A Local House

About half of our community live like this; most have electricity, but few have running water.

Simple things about our lifestyle here portray our wealth.  For example, we furnished our house all at once when we moved in.  We frequently travel to the big city.  We eat more chicken than fish, which is more expensive.  We replace items when they break.  We have a washing machine and we hire a lady to help clean our house, not to mention our water is piped directly to our house.  Many of these things are not considered extravagant when seen through our own cultural lenses, yet we do come from a wealthy country when you consider the infrastructure and the availability of resources and opportunities.  This has led to a great deal of personal adjusting for myself, Erin. 

Just yesterday I found the basket of nicely folded clean laundry covered in ants.  Why, I still do not know.  But that is part of life here.  For a period, we can hold the ants at bay, then one day they are in and on everything.  For a period, we have an uninterrupted water supply.  Then one day the city water doesn’t come on and occasionally our water storage tank runs out before the water returns.  Some days I just don’t feel like cooking, but the only pre-prepared food is ramen and there are not any ‘drive-thru's’ or even fast food establishments.  Other days I just don’t want to dress in pants and sleeved-shirts to leave the house, even just to take out the garbage. 

At times, I’m surprised I am not more use to the way of life after living for almost 4 years here.  But, I have recently been learning my focus has been on the “living here” not the “why” we’re living here.  How I would love to shop at Walmart, with its air conditioning and endless variety, though I was not fond of it when it first came to Walla Walla.  But as much as I miss the comforts and conveniences of the States, the Father is teaching me to put Him first, love Him more than my own comfort, and focus on eternity.  That doesn’t mean the ants will go away, there will always be running water from my tap, or I’ll stop dripping with sweat.  Instead, it means His glory, His love, and His grace will not only be sufficient to supply my needs, but will be immensely more fulfilling and joy giving than any comfort or convenience I could attain in the States.  As my focus changes, I also begin to see all that I do have and have been blessed with, not just materially either, but eternally also.  As I grow in this area I know it will not always be easy and is likely be a long journey of growth, but I also know it will be rewarding! 

My Garden

From the left: cherry tomatoes, cauliflower, and bell peppers under the make shift chicken fence. 

And, really, there are some advantages to living here.  My garden is flourishing and it is November!  My bread dough rises quickly because of the heat.  We can walk right into a pharmacy and buy prescription medicine for a fraction of the cost, without the prescription.  Lastly, I get to (though I often feel forced), cook with 'fresh from the farm' ingredients. 

 And Aunt once told me, "The difference between ordeal and adventure is your attitude," or perspective!

 The rest of life lately, in pictures...

Whitman playing with friends

Studying language with daddy.

Halloween

Caedmon carved a watermelon, all by himself.

Pumpkin pie for Halloween dessert.

Evangeline turned 5 months.

Whitman lost his first tooth!

A new pet: two little green birds. 

Caedmon is doing great caring for them himself. 

Happy, healthy kids.

Another wedding, Whitman was not too excited to attend. 

Bath time, on the dinning room table. 

Getting close to sitting. 

A friend's new baby. 

A Grand Visit

On Sunday we said good by to Grammy and Grampy B.  It was the longest we've had visitors and yet in many respects not long enough.  Ever since Caedmon's birth, we have lived more apart from family than near them.  Knowing this was a necessary evil of the life work we've chosen doesn't always make it easy. 

We picked Jack and Melinda up from the airport in the big city and spent an extended weekend there.  It was a nice break, enjoying many comforts and conveniences, such as western food and shopping, mostly of cheese and butter. 

The much anticipated arrival of grandparents!

Holding Evangeline for the first time.

Enjoying perks of the big city.

Grampy Time

After the big city, we brought Grammy and Grampy to our home in Barat.  We spent much of our time just doing life, which included language study, homeschooling and sharing what our life is like here.  It was so wonderful just spending time together!  Jack and Melinda both went above and beyond in helping.  Jack worked on small jobs around the house, while Melinda helped with cleaning and homeschooling. 

Riding a public mini-bus.

Grammy and John on our motorcycle. 

We all attended a 'rowing' boat race.

The large crowd of spectators.

The closing ceremony for the boat race included traditional drummers and dancers. 

Along with speeches from key community figures. 

John was asked to say a few words as well as we were considered esteemed guests.

Family

Pure Joy

- to have grandparents visit!

More grampy time!

A few last words before saying goodbye.

Saying goodbye.

We all had such a wonderful time!

Schedules

John often wakes up before 5am.  I, Erin, wake up about 6am, and the boys follow about 15minutes later.  We get ready for the day, trying to push the boys out the door by 7am so as not to be late to school.  The boys return from school about 11am.  We eat lunch and then follow with homeschooling until about 3pm.  The rest of the afternoon is spent by the boys and I playing outside, interacting with neighbors, or just hanging out at home.  Dinner is a quicker and lighter meal in the evening, then the boys shower and are in bed by 8pm.  The rest of the evening John and I have spent just the two of us catching up or relaxing, as we are usually pretty spent by that time.  This schedule has worked pretty well in our home, but it does not always mesh well with the culture outside. 

Whitman and Caedmon playing outside. 

We recently covered our front yard/parking area with a palm frond roof. 

Locals, here in Barat, are up early like us, off to school and work early, then after lunch they take a nap, children and parents.  This nap then promotes a very late bed time.  Most of our neighbor children are up well past 10pm.  This also results in people stopping by our house, quite a lot recently, after 7pm.  Many events really get going about this time too.

Whitman at school, waiting to greet his teachers. 

(usually by 7:30am)

 A couple weeks ago we were invited to a groom’s pre-wedding party, the night before his ceremony.  We met our friends at their home at 5pm so we could all drive together in their car.  We ended up leaving their house after 6pm, and hanging out at the groom’s house, also the location of the event, until things got started, sometime after 7.  Though the event was interesting and a first for all of us, it was stressful as none of us had taken naps, Whitman almost turned into a pumpkin, and it all resulted in a later dinner and night than we are used to, all on a school night too. 

The groom, center, with two nephews. 

A small ceremony, performed by a couple key figures, was done in preparation for the wedding ceremony the following day.   

Food served after the ceremony. 

From top left: chicken, crunchy sweet noodles, fish cakes, shredded chicken, duck eggs, and curry in the middle. 

Watching the ceremony. 

Men sat on one side of the room, while the women sat on the other. 

The occasional event and altered schedule, even unplanned, doesn’t kill us and usually turns out just fine, but John and I frequently discuss how to adjust our schedule to better enable interaction with locals.  Unfortunately, aside from changing our largest meal to lunch, which enables me to spend more time with people in the afternoon/evenings, we are at a loss for how else to change our schedules.  This is a common dilemma we face in most aspects of life overseas; how do we adjust the way we do things, to enable people interaction, yet be sustainable by us for the long term. 

You know you live overseas when...

Skippy peanut butter is a real treat.  I, Erin, always tried to convince John we should only buy Adams peanut butter when we lived in the states.  I like the strong peanut flavor and especially the lack of added ingredients, namely sugar.  We are able, thankfully, to buy peanut butter here, but it comes in the smallest jars I’ve ever seen and with the added sugar.  Though Skippy too has added sugar, it was a nice treat the other day when John brought it home from the store… a taste of home. 

You could call it a 'travel size' jar of peanut butter. 

The jar is about 5oz.

You know you live overseas when…the answer to your husband’s question of, “Did you find ants in the rice?” was, “Only around the edges.”  I’ve gotten use to fishing bugs out of many of our food items, though it does still bother me occasionally.  I usually only do this with uncooked items and those not easily replaced.  So John was surprised when I answered him in this way with the cooked rice as it is so easy to come by here!

You know you live overseas when…you assume the itchy spot on your arm is a mosquito bite, then by the end of the day you are sure it is not, but unsure as to what it really is.  Thankfully it has not grown nor is it itchy anymore, but it is as red as ever.  Hopefully it is not another “Monster Inside of Us.” (see the May post)

A perfectly round red circle below my wrist; probably a bite, of some sort...?

It Took Two Years

Many aspects of life here in Barat just take more time as we lack many conveniences we are used to in the States.  Learning language and culture definitely takes time, but in some areas I still get surprised.  Our first year in Barat I didn’t use any beef in my cooking.  Finally, we discovered not only where to buy beef, but that we could also get it ground into hamburger.  I had a similar experience with chicken this week.  I usually buy a whole chicken once a week; it is slaughtered and chopped up while I wait.  It comes with the organs, neck, and all the meat on the bones.  A friend told me just last week, you can ask the butcher to take the meat off the bones, what a concept, I never thought this was possible.  Unfortunately, the first butcher I asked, just looked at me funny.  So this week I tried another butcher and I came home with the meat in one bag and the bones in another!  At first I thought of just pitching the bones, but I use chicken broth quite a bit, which I have to make from scratch, so the bones worked well for that yesterday.

The other incident that had not happened before, thankfully, was a semi-emergent visit to the local clinic.  We’ve visited the local clinic before, when Caedmon had an eye infection, to learn about malaria rates in Barat, and for a pregnancy check-up, but this time was different.  It was 9:30 in the morning, last Tuesday, when I received a call from one of Whitman’s teachers.  She informed me that she and Whitman where at the local clinic because he fell at school and split his chin open.  It was a small wound, but the nurses at the clinic recommended at least 2 stitches.  The teacher was calling because Whitman would not let them stitch him up without me or John there.  The phone conversation began with the teacher apologizing for bothering me.  Thankfully I was given a great deal of peace and enough of a level head to ask which clinic they were at before hanging up.  I proceeded to place sleeping Evangeline into the carrier, grabbed my own first aid kit, and set off.  I rode a mini-bus downtown, then found a Pedi-cab to take me to the clinic.  I probably could have ridden the mini-bus the whole way, but I wasn’t exactly sure where the clinic was and I was sure the Pedi-cab driver would know. 

I arrived at the clinic and was quickly greeted by Whitman’s teachers.  They led me to a small room where Whitman was laying on a stretcher looking tired and concerned, but not crying.  After getting the full story from the teachers, I looked at the wound, which was no more than a centimeter in length and not too deep.  I decided to just use steri-strips to keep the would closed.  I’m still not sure what the nurses, who would have done the stitching, or his teachers thought of this, but it was small and from shadowing nurses at a hospital in the big city, I assumed the needle which they were to use to be dull from multiple uses (well sterilized though).  Whitman was very happy to not get stiches and we left within a ½ hour of my arrival. 

Brave Whitman

Steri-stripped

On the way home Whitman related how a friend at school had pushed him while they were sitting to recite prayers.  He fell forward, but didn’t realize at first that he had an “owie.”  He said, “I curled up like an egg and cried.”  Then when he got up everyone saw blood.  Two of his teachers took him on a motorcycle to the clinic, without his helmet which he did have at school.  Whitman said, “Even the teachers didn’t wear helmets," and "I got a little blood on one of my teacher's shirts, so she had to change."  The rest of the day Whitman was himself, only twice saying, “I wish I didn’t have this owie on my chin.”

It was a very smooth experience, we are thankful Whitman is well, that we were called by his teachers, and that they took such good care of him.  One teacher even returned to the school only to be replaced at the clinic by a teacher to whom Whitman is closer with. 

Baby Care - Cross Culturally

Evangeline is now 2 months old.  We are getting into a schedule and she is extending the hours she sleeps at night, reaching 8 hours twice.  She is also providing us with many opportunities to learn culture. 

Everyone in Barat, and in many other parts of this country, were very surprised that we would venture out of the house at first with such a small baby.  Most people here do not go out before the baby is 40 days old.  Granted, Evangeline did take her first airplane ride at only 3 days old making her a unique case even by U.S. standards.  Occasionally I, Erin, will go out with Evangeline to a neighborhood shop or to visit a friend.  People are worried she may get sick because she usually is without a hat.  At first we would take her outside in just a onesie, but due to people’s comments, we began wrapping her in a light blanket.  We have always worked by the principal that infants are best dressed with one addition layer than what we would be comfortable in.  In this climate I would be comfortable in nothing, so I figure Evangeline is fine in just a onesie.  The Barat people on the other hand think babies should be all wrapped up, including socks, mittens, and a hat, especially when outside. 

Some of the things we are seen doing have been met with comments such as, “I didn’t know you could do that,” or “Our parents always told us not to do that.”  This frequently occurs when we hold Evangeline in an upright position.  They hold their babies horizontally for at least a couple months as they fear for the safety of the baby’s head.  One friend told us that is could cause the child to become a hunch back. 

Mostly for small talk, people frequently ask me if I am breastfeeding and if we use a hammock.  All babies here are placed in a type of hammock hung on springs, then bounced to sooth and put to sleep.  It is used much in the same way baby swings are in the U.S. are, except there is nothing automatic about them, causing someone to always be tugging on the hammock to keep the baby bouncing. 

A few other differences we have learned are that many people do not use diapers, of any kind, for the first couple months.  One man mentioned chafing, where as another friend mentioned the remains of the umbilical cord as reasons.  Most baby girls get their ears pierced almost immediately.  Once neighbor told me I should make sure to get it done before her ear lobes become hard.   Every time there is a visitor to meet our new baby and congratulate us, they always bring a gift.  Gifts have consisted of clothes, mostly brightly patterned dresses, soap for us and Evangeline, and pillows.

 

Gifts

Not sure what to do with all the pillows!

Evangeline being weighed at a local clinic.

Yes, that is her in the sack.

Most of these differences are easy to just nod, smile at, and agree that yes we do things differently.  There have been a couple differences that are more difficult for me.  One, is that everyone wants to touch Evangeline, mostly on her face.  The second is even people who are sick, or very recently sick, will come to visit.  One lady with a cold and a girl who had a fever the night before came to visit.  Then a neighbor we all call ‘grandma’ came to chat with us while we were outside.  She proceeds to tells us all of how she has had diarrhea since the night before, all the while holding Evangeline’s hand.  These times it is ok to be a little more forward and tell people it is not ok to hold or touch her. 

All in all I am so thankful for Evangeline’s continued health and growth.

We also just celebrated Caedmon's 8th birthday.  Blessed by another year with Caedmon!

We started with cinnamon rolls before school.

We made a piñata.

Whitman taking a turn.

Caedmon's turn

Caedmon wanted vanilla and strawberry cake.

We ate cake with neighbors after the piñata broke.

Getting so big!