A Miscellaneous Mixture

A Miscellaneous Mixture is the second dictionary definition of one of my favorite local dishes here.  The first dictionary definition better explains this dish as a 'vegetable salad' with 'a spicy peanut sauce.'  It is a miscellaneous mixture of vegetables, mostly green, of which I did not often eat in the States, but with the delicious peanut sauce I would probably eat almost anything (of the food variety that is). This dish is served warm, usually without rice which is rare for most dishes here.  I finally learned how to make it from a friend of ours.  It turned out to be quite simple considering it is from scratch; I even had to roast the peanuts myself!  So if you are feeling adventurous here is the recipe and some notes, enjoy!

A Miscellaneous Mixture
(all measurements are approximate because my friend didn't measure with anything except her taste buds)
2 cups roasted peanuts (if using salted peanuts decrease salt later)
5 shallots (or cloves of shallots, never used before living here), cut in half
3 garlic cloves, cut in half
1/2 inch ginger root
1/3 cup brown sugar (which here is actually palm sugar and literally is called 'red sugar')
1 Tbls salt
water until desired thickness (about that of pancake batter)
chili pepper (I omitted as it adds heat more than flavor)
Steamed vegetables of choice.  I used watercress, bean sprouts, yard long green beans, and a few carrots.
Hard boiled eggs, sliced
Tofu - dusted with flour and pan fried

1.) Fry the shallots, garlic and ginger in oil until fragrant and softened. 
2.) Blend peanuts, shallots, garlic, and ginger in a blender or food processor.
3.) Combine blended mixture, sugar, salt and water in a medium sauce pan.  Heat until well combined and desired consistency and flavor is obtained (I know this is difficult if you don't know how it is to taste, so I'll try to paint a picture.  The sauce is thick and course, but will run off a spoon.  It tastes like peanuts with additional seasonings, which I could not have listed from just tasting, but the ginger is key.  It is sweat, but not overwhelmingly.  Every time I order it at a restaurant the spiciness is different, so omitting the chili pepper really didn't change the flavor for me.)
4.) Place the vegetables and tofu on a dish.  Pour sauce over the top and place sliced eggs on side/top. 
Enjoy a taste of our side of the planet!

Caedmon's first presentation

     We are in our fifth week of homeschooling-kindergarten.  Last year Caedmon attended a local pre-school for all of two weeks.  We took him out and never went back.  Our main goal for him at the time was to learn the local language.  Fortunately through regular play and interaction with locals he is learning quite a bit. 

     This year we decided it would be best not to weaken his enthusiasm for learning by entering him into a local school again.  So on August 19^th we began kindergarten at home.  It is going very well.  Caedmon is ready to start every morning, excited about learning, and constantly asking when we will use the activities I, Erin, have on my shelf.  I too am fully enjoying it, so much so it has become a competitor for my own language study.  I would much rather prepare for Caedmon’s class than for my own language session. 

     I scheduled 10 “field trips” into our year, with the first a week ago Monday.  I’m still slightly at a loss for where we will go or what we’ll do for all them.  So, for our first field trip we just went outside to the small park within our complex.  We talked about the parts of plants and collected examples for a ‘report.’  Back at home Caedmon glued our examples onto a paper and I wrote down headings.  The following day I asked him to give John, Whitman and I a ‘presentation’ about our field trip and the examples on his ‘report.’  It was a lot of fun.  At his age my goal in many areas is broad exposure.  So exposing him the parts of plants and trees in a concrete way, and the terms for a report and presentation with out really emphasizing much else was a lot of fun.  Enjoy the videos!

 

     I feel so blessed to be a part of my child’s formal education.  Years ago I never envisioned myself homeschooling, but I am loving it!  I really appreciate the flexibility we have to slow down when Caedmon struggles with a topic and the opportunity I have to see him learn new information and master previously difficult areas.  And this is just kindergarten!

It's a girl!

No we are not expecting, sorry mom.  Our neighbors just had a baby girl.  This is their second, the first is a little girl 2 1/2 years old, just like Whitman.  According to the local culture new babies are not given a name until a special party which usually takes place on the 7th or 8th day after their birth.  The 7th and the 8th day came and went and we didn't see any large crowds gather at our neighbors nor did we receive an invitation.  Come to find out the party can happen really at any time, but it is best if it take places within the first 20 days of life.  2 weeks after mom and baby came home we were visited by the mom to ask our permission for a large tent to be put up outside our gate.  We were also invited to come for lunch at the special party.

Party tent right outside our gate.
  These go up in front of homes for weddings and funerals too, often closing down the whole street.

The night before a large tent was set up directly in front of our gate.  At this time a goat is killed as well.  We were not aware until the next day when the meat was served.  Apparently one goat is killed for a girl and two for a boy.  At 6am the morning of, the family, which includes an extended family of 5 siblings and their perspective families, began preparing.   The road was swept and motorcycles moved.  I, Erin, quickly offered our garage area as parking for the family’s 4-6 motorcycles and one car.  . 

our garage area as a motorcycle parking lot

The event actually began that morning with a few close relatives each cutting a piece of the new baby’s hair and reciting a prayer.  The hair is then collected and placed in a coconut.  We have heard some plant the coconut afterwards, but are not sure about this specific instance.  At some point the baby’s name is also announced to this intimate group.  This all took place inside the neighbor’s house first thing in the morning so we unfortunately did not take part.  The rest of our morning was spent outside watching the preparations and playing with the neighbor kids.  The event we were able to attend was a catered buffet set up outside for friends and relatives to enjoy.  We ate around noon and stayed another hour.  Guests came and went, eating and visiting until at least 4pm.  Most visitors just sat outside eating.  Often the women would venture into the house to greet the mom and new baby.  By 7pm the tent was down and all was cleaned up.  All in all is was quite a big event consisting mainly of food and visiting.  It was fun to take part in the celebration of their daughter’s birth, even if we didn’t quite understand it all. 

 

Neighbor kids and their cousins sitting in front of our gate. 
Our neighbors are the two on the end left side, and the one in pink second from the end, right.
  The new big sister is second from the end, left. 

waiting to eat

Generous Neighbors

We seem to have a mutual trading relationship with our neighbors.  They frequently present us with samplings of local food; anything from leftovers to portions from regular every day meals or special events.  When they learn the boys like a certain food, they bring it over.  Other times if we take them something, souvenirs from a trip, an extra pan of brownies, they quickly reciprocate.  One morning, I, Erin, was talking with the other mothers out buying fruits and vegetables when a man delivered a flat of eggs to them.  We then talked about how all our kids like eggs, especially the whites but not the yokes.  Shortly there after, one of the mothers brought over a bag full of eggs. 

 


shrimp - the 3rd or 4th occurrence!

 

Whitman displaying the long antennae



It has become quite regular for them to bring us bowl of shrimp; shrimp larger then I’ve ever seen before.  The neighbors regularly visit the port before 6am in the morning to buy a whole case of shrimp, then often share their purchase with us.  One time after I unassumingly told them we like squid, we were given a bowl full of squid.  Come to find out they are actually cuttle fish.  I have never bought, much less prepared squid nor cuttle fish.  Actually the only reason I recognized the name ‘cuttle fish’ was from a kids cartoon program the boys watched in the states before we moved, over a year ago.  Thankfully my trusty Fanny Farmer cookbook explained how to clean and prepared them.  I dusted the cuttle fish in flour and pan fried them.  They were quite good, very similar to squid!

cuttle fish



traditional meal for the biggest holiday of the year: wrapped rice in center, spicy salsa over hard boiled eggs, chicken in a mild curry, and vegetable in broth

We’ve been given vegetables, candy, cookies, birthday cake, bags of nuts, and complete meals.  Their generosity amazes me time and time again. 

TV Repairmen

The sound on our television has been broken for two months.  This fortunately has only disrupted the boys' morning cartoons, which is a little bit of a mystery to me, Erin, as they don't understand all that is said anyway, yet they just didn't want to watch if there wasn't sound. 

Yesterday John saw an add in the news paper for a TV repairman.  John called the number first thing in the morning and arranged for the man to come the same day.  As we sat down to dinner at 6pm, a man knocked on our gate and immediately entered, coming straight to our door.  We were slightly surprise as we didn't recognize him.  John quickly found out it was the TV repairman and invited him in.  He quickly checked the TV, then asked his assistant, who was still outside, to bring in his bag.  His bag was brought in and opened, then not a minute later the men both left to go pray, leaving their bag behind.  We were slightly surprised and moderately confused as not many words were exchanged.  In our position, after living here for over a year, encountering very friendly people, and feeling safe, we continued with our dinner.  Though I have seen way too many movies to keep from letting my imagination wander.  One half hour later both men returned.  They proceeded to take apart the TV, right on our living room floor, and check into the problem.  They determined it to be an issue with the speakers, so the main repairman, left in the above picture, left on his motorcycle to by new speakers.  Shortly after he returned, now 7:30pm, they both left to go pray again.  Thankfully they returned in 15 minutes to install the new speakers, check the function, and reassemble the TV.  At about 8:30 they left. 

Much of the in-between time the assistant, right in the picture above, talked continually with John.  We learned a great deal about his personal beliefs.  It also elicited many questions in our minds.  John was able to follow up with a tutor today about their style of dress and a few of their adornments.  It was a very interesting experience and goes to show that culture and beliefs cannot be generalized across a whole people group.  Overall it was not the TV repair experience we were expecting!

 

 

Learning Culture

    Our first night on the southeastern island last week began with dinner at our friend’s house.  As the guests we were asked to eat first.  As we ate, our hosted just watched and continually encouraged us to eat more.  Even after setting our plates down, as we ate sitting on the floor, we were told to ‘please eat more.’  After dinner and a little conversation we said goodbye and were seen out by our friend.  On the way to the car our friend told us we were going to stop by his cousin’s house, thankfully just next door.  After being welcomed in, we were served juice (actually cold water with added fruit flavored syrup), then asked to please eat.  We politely declined again and again after many attempts by our host to offer us more food.  Our actions in the end were fairly disrespectful.  Even if we had just eaten, which they all knew we had, eating some of the offered food, however little, demonstrated respect and value towards our hosts.  Throughout our trip we visited many homes and were constantly encouraged to eat or drink more.  One visit was to a guy’s house with whom we had just spent the entire morning.  I, Erin, expected the visited was intended to introduce his family.  When we arrived his family were just leaving.  Never the less we were asked to please go inside, then they all left.  We then spent the next hour visiting with the same people we spent the morning with, were served ‘juice,’ and many other small treats.  Another unexpected visit occurred after lunch one day  as we were returning to the hotel to put the boys down for a nap.  We were told our friend’s uncle was expecting a visit from us and we were now going to stop by.  After arriving at the house we were served snacks and visited with his aunt for 15 minutes before we politely excused ourselves.  The uncle had been taking a nap the whole time so we did not even meet him.  I am learning having guests in your home is very important in this culture.  The duration of the visit nor who is at home at the time seems to be important.  Having someone actually IN your home, even if it is to just sit in your ‘guest room’ is very honoring.  At times we are left completely alone while the hosts leave to prepare snacks.  The constant encouragement to eat more is their way of hosting and caring for guests.  Looking through my own cultural glasses I feel pressured and unconsidered.  Yet through culture study I learn this is their way of loving on me and treating me with great respect.  This trip was a reminder as to why we study culture along with the language.  If we can better understand where they are coming from we will be able to better understand what they are communicating.  Then one day we too will be able to communicate clearly in a manner which truly speaks to them, not just with our words but with our actions as well. 

A Successful Trip

One month ago we attempted a trip to our friend's home on an a southeastern island.  Yesterday we returned home from a successful visit to this island in need. 
A tropical island, covered in palm trees, surrounded by clear ocean water, shown to us by our own personal tour guide (our friend) sounds like a dream vacation!  I, Erin, am still adjusting to the culture around us so the trip was much more a 'cultural experience' than a vacation.  Since our current goal is language and culture study the trip was beneficial and provided a great opportunity to watch for future possibilities, though very stretching (more in the following post).

the port as we left on a ferry

on the ferry with our friend

another seating option on the ferry

making friends on the ferry

exhausted from leaving at 5am and taking a 4 hour car ride + 2 hour ferry ride + 1 hour car ride

visiting historic/tourists sites: this in an ancient gong, one of a pair, left by explorers

traditional still house

people who gathered to... look at us

Visiting a friend's grandmother's house.  She lived about an hour outside the city, in a small village.

Caedmon in the entrance-way of the grandmother's house

inside the grandmother's house, a stilt house as well

guest and family room of the grandmother's house



we were served lunch at the grandmother's house: boiled cassava, boiled eggs, buffalo meat, vegetable in broth and oranges from the family garden

neighbor's house across the street

parakeet type birds, just hunted and most were still alive: for eating

visiting the family's garden

picking oranges

looking at pumpkins in the garden

a view on an hour bought ride to this adjacent island to enjoy a well known beach on an uninhabited side of the island

a fisherman

visiting our friend's house I noticed this neighbor wood working while his wife cooked over a fire

since coconut trees are in abundance, coconut meat is dried out over a small fire to be sold for processing into coconut oil

chopping the dried coconut meat to be sold

picking young coconuts for a treat

opening the coconuts, these women (cousins of our friend) were very skilled in this

collecting the coconut water

Caedmon helping to remove the young coconut meat

eating the young coconut meat with a natural spoon (from the outer shell)

A cousin's house, newly built.  Most newer homes are of brick and cement construction, though stilt houses are still built. 

Playing with small fish caught in the backyard river and making new friends.

Our friend's aunt, mother, and youngest sister. 

Whitman was content to be carried around and shown the chickens and dogs.  She was concerned he would be too hot under the sun and covered him with a sarong. 

A hillside grave yard.  According to the majority religion the head is placed towards the north with the feet facing south.  Then the grave is marked to last over time and decorated as one chooses.

Temporary markers on a new grave.  Two are used for females and one for males.  As family and friends visit the grave they shower it with flowers, leaves, and water. 

Happy 4th of July, Merry Christmas and Happy Thanksgiving!

Fireworks + visiting friends and family + eating all day = the biggest holiday of the year.  It is difficult to understand the celebrations we witnessed yesterday if we used our own cultural lenses, but that is why we are spending our time learning language AND culture.  This year we stayed in town and started our day like normal; early morning exercise and studying before the boys woke up.  I spent extra time outside this morning to capture a few pictures of the atmosphere on this holiday.  A special gathering began at 6:30am at all the local places of worship.  Very similar to special holidays in the States, attendance is at its peak, therefore everyone gathers outside.  Our complex became a parking lot, as did many roads.  It was such an interesting sight to see.  I, Erin, saw at least 3 different parents bring bouncy seats for their babies who were in tow. 

The four lane road at the end of our street became a parking lot in at least two lanes.

Women and children gather in the back half, while men gather in the front of a large parking lot the street from our complex.

complete with balloon sellers!

women in the usual dress for their place of gathering

people spilled out into the street to attend

men up in the front wearing traditional black or brown hats

visiting our friend's aunt's house

Our neighbors brought us traditional holiday food shortly after 8am.  Then at 9am we went to our host family’s house to eat with them.  After a couple hours we returned home to be picked up by friends to visit their house.  Prior to leaving we were invited in to our neighbors’ house, the ones who brought us food earlier, and were served a jello dessert and glasses of coke.  Shortly there after we left with our friends.  Our friends, actually their 18 year old son, 15 year old daughter, and 12 year son first drove us to their aunt’s house to visit and eat…again.  When we arrived at our friends house we were served another meal.  Then we enjoyed some relaxed time visiting.  We arrived home in the middle of the afternoon and were visited by another friend, this time I served them food and I just drank water.  So from 9am to 4pm we visited four homes, ate three meals, and drank lots of pop.

traditional cookies on the table, accompanied by glasses of coke

relaxing at a friend's house

The boys did very well visiting many new people who wanted to take their pictures.  It helped that they were constantly offered cookies and pop.  We went to bed, both the night before and night of, watching fireworks from our bedroom windows. 

 

food from our neighbors, from middle bottom going clockwise: bundled rice, beef, chicken with curry, and vegetables with coconut milk.